different meditation style

A very different style of meditation

“In this, Stillness Meditation Therapy, the full meditative experience is beyond the relaxation of the body and mind, beyond the transcendence of discomfort.  What is it then?  Is it something strange and unnatural?  No. There is nothing strange or bizarre about it at all.  Nor is there anything dramatic or exciting.  Do not expect ecstasy or any outlandish distortions of the mind.  Expect rather the experience of deep naturalness.  Utter naturalness.  It is only when this comes to us that we realise that true naturalness is something quite foreign to us in our ordinary life.  Simplicity.  Such profound simplicity that we are almost overwhelmed by it, immersed in it.  And it is easy to become confused by the simplicity of the procedure and what seems to be an absence of a logical basis …”

Ainslie Meares MD (The Wealth Within)

Stillness Meditation Therapy History

Our regular clients and readers know that it was Dr Ainslie Meares who showed me how to overcome 8 years of life limiting anxiety (In Stillness Conquer Fear).  It is his work that I and my colleagues continue to offer to thousands of others.  With over three decades experience in helping a range of clients of all ages to personal freedom and “a better life”, we welcome your interest and enquiries.

 

High anxiety in 21st Century

 

Anxiety is common to all people.  In these challenging times we hear more than ever before of suffering caused by stress, tension, anxiety, depression, anger and a range of related symptoms.

If you or someone you know continues, confused and fearful or has become too reliant on medication or alcohol or any negative coping strategy, perhaps they may welcome this different style of meditation and approach to healing.  Let’s learn to manage negative emotions and live better through discovering the Wealth Within.

                                                                                                © Pauline McKinnon, May 2022

In Search of Peace. To Find that Balance

Some run for shelter,
The tree holds firm
And sways with the storm,
The eagle is borne higher and higher

Ainslie Meares M.D. Thoughts: 1980

 

Those words by my mentor, Dr Ainslie Meares, and drawn from one of his passages of Zen-like poetry, have long been an ongoing inspiration for my work.   His empathic use of the typical tree to indicate natural simplicity, serenity, strength and growth has formed our logo for the past 30-something years.  The image shown here to capture his words has been present on our site in a quiet way for some time.   It now becomes our new home page signature.

In this image we see a very stable and strong tree standing tall against a night sky.  Myriad tiny stars and a clear moon offer a kind of infinity to view while the tree reflected within a body of still water will, I hope, offer insight into the work in which we specialise.

The simple clarity of this image inspires me.  I am fascinated by the galaxy, the activities of the moon.  The universe is powerful, filled with hope of something far greater than we can humanly know.  Nature gives us peace and comfort, essential messages from which to take heed.   I hope that this image may inspire those who ponder it in their personal search for a calmer, better life.

Yet now there is urgency in our world.  The current range of health, environmental and hostile disasters are monumental in their universal effect.

Find that Balance - Peace

Can we recognise today that peace has recently become more precious to humanity than ever before?

War in Ukraine is deeply troubling, evoking memories of the second world war, Vietnam, long-time distress within Afghanistan and ongoing conflict in various other locations. We are aware, too of the ‘war’ against climate change and its effect on world environment.  Recent disastrous floods in our own beloved ‘north’ represent one of many consequences of the downside of what has become modern living.  Nature is speaking out loud!  We see also an urgency to universally recognise the negative dominance of selfishness, greed, abuse, injustice, anger and aggression.  There will always exist imbalances between the negative and positive but it’s only in the cultivation of balance that humanity may find peace.

How to find that balance? 

Perhaps it is time to pause together.  To acknowledge life’s imbalances.  To contemplate, to meditate regularly and to seek or recognise a greater power.  Perhaps it is time to seriously begin to pray … to consider something greater than human endeavour– the absolute power beyond all power.    For, in a nutshell, from the smallest voice to the strongest, we know our world is hurting.

Let’s aim to nurture peace?

Personal peace and peace beyond ourself with the aim of universal solidarity?

Beyond bewilderment

Healing our Communal Bewilderment

A certain miasma seems to have invaded our collective lives – a kind of invisible mixture of emptiness, complacency and urgency.  This odd mix of energy and lassitude is, for many, accompanied by a strange sense of sorrow; not the grief of trauma or loss but a level of something that halts progress and brings with it a state of bewilderment.

In these pandemic times, there is restlessness, a loss of who we are, who we were and what is expected of us from here-on.  

Change, which has affected all demographics, through all age groups and even our very young children, has overwhelmed life as we knew it.  We have been caught unawares, unprepared, unready for such a devious invasion of our ‘self’.

In this confusion we vaguely recognise a world that has been turned upside down.  With caution surrounding our every move we edge our way into this brand-new year with a level of trepidation that, in some ways, has somewhat eclipsed the threat of the virus itself.  No matter who we are in the hierarchy of society or whatever our role, we are called to realign our thinking.  We are bewildered as we attempt to navigate and adapt to a world of deprivations previously unknown. 

Restrictions in various forms remain inevitable, bringing change and loss and denying freedom. Without the gift of freedom, we feel frail.  And its kin, the treasures of peace, love, hope and joy fade back as adverse emotions surge in confusion, frustration and anger. Personal control has vanished, a discomfort that we’re powerless to ‘fix’ despite all effort.

With such burdened hearts and minds many succumb to the typical effects of exhaustion feeling increased stress, heightened anxiety and the cloud of depression.  What can we do? 

Let us pause, consider, and learn about growth – the paradox of healing – and the power of growth which can conquer emotional challenges. 

It comes in stillness

Take a moment to sit quietly and be still. Allow yourself to experience within that moment, an opportunity to completely ‘let go’.  Especially let go of effort or thought.  Not easy at first.  So perhaps you might pray, if you can, in whichever style of faith you can muster, for a new kind of freedom. Trust those quiet moments as little by little a tiny seed of inner peace may grow enough to bring you – and therefore perhaps others – toward positive change.

Do this – and see what happens.  Beyond bewilderment, from stillness you might capture, if only briefly, a different experience of the power of love.  And a future, not broken but refreshingly renewed.

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Calm & Peaceful

Christmas is an almost universal Season of celebration, aligned also within the festivities of most cultures. Christmas itself is the celebration of the birth of one who gave His life in the name of love, justice, forgiveness, and peace.

I have recalled the following story previously, but it returns to my thoughts as we continue to live under the shadow of the COVID pandemic.  Several years ago, at this time of the year I visited the country of Laos where Don, my husband, was involved in a fund- raising mission. Rich with magnificent scenery, and gentle, welcoming and generous people, Laos is understood to be the poorest country in the world.

In its capital, Vientiane, there was no pre-Christmas rush. Lao is not a Christian culture. However, there were other celebratory events taking place for the country’s National Day.

Joyful activities had kept the city vital and alive until the resounding music stopped abruptly at 11 p.m. But the revellers continued at a considerate pace, well into the following day. Making our way through the crowd as we wandered about, my attention was drawn to a scene of absolute contrast.

In the middle of the road, slowly and laboriously weaving her way through the crowd, came a frail, elderly woman pushing an old wooden cart. This, her means of transport, was piled high with possessions including many discarded plastic containers of all varieties – and a very small boy. It was explained to us that she collected articles for re-cycling – and even on this festive holiday she needed to continue her work.

As this woman crossed a rough patch in the road, the cart lost balance, tipping the contents – and the little boy – helter-skelter. Our instinct was to assist as it seemed tragic for her tiring efforts to be so hindered. But instinct also told us that assistance was inappropriate as, perhaps with Buddhist acceptance, little by little she reassembled the load.

This woman acted calmly. She was uncomplaining and independent. She was not embarrassed but remained dignified, simply doing what she had to do with patience and persistence and living with existential patience by just calmly continuing her task. For her, there was no pressure, no rushing and absolutely no urgency. Even the onlookers, including ourselves remained quiet and respectfully observant within a scene so different from what would surely have been happening at this celebratory time of the year in our streets back home.

That contrasting event radiated serenity, simplicity, and contentment.

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All great spiritual leaders have taught their followers ways of life by which to live well. These teachings involve the virtues of love … justice … forgiveness … peace and ultimately, human happiness. It seems we have each been given a particular role in life, a path to follow despite any discomforts that role may present.  So as part of our festivities..

 …let’s look to each day with the gift of serenity leading to positive action. Let’s enjoy those busy times with ease and immerse ourselves in the happy times that follow. Let’s live each day similarly, regardless of what it may bring…

There may be challenges or conflicts to address and resolve. There may be things we can do to assist others and indeed, to preserve our beautiful world. There may be New Year resolutions to make – and keep! And there may be fresh, exciting avenues to joyfully explore. Such as these and more will happen. It is how we live them that makes the difference to our life and human happiness. 

Contentless Meditation. New Research

New research by The University of Melbourne, Contemplative Studies Centre shows benefits of natural and simple meditation.

The Contemplative Studies Centre fuses contemplative wisdom, innovative research, lifelong education, authentic dialogue and practice in the pursuit of knowledge to allow us, our society, and our world to flourish. Find out more on The University of Melbourne, Contemplative Studies Centre website: https://psychologicalsciences.unimelb.edu.au/CSC

In contentless meditation experience, the mind is silent and still, without thoughts or perceptions. What do we learn from studying this experience scientifically in different forms of meditation? University of Melbourne PhD Candidate, Toby Woods, has used scientific method to examine contentless experience in four meditation practices. In this talk he presented the findings from two large-scale analyses: an evidence synthesis of 135 expert texts and a questionnaire-based study of more than 250 meditators attending specific retreats and classes.

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Have Butterflies in the Stomach?

Had butterflies in the stomach recently?  Just think about the glamorous affair of the Oscars. Hundreds, maybe thousands, of movie actors, directors, producers, sound technicians, costume designers, and many more ‘movie makers’, young and old, dressed in their finest, ready to applaud the best and support their own. Some were in the running to win the ultimate – the golden Oscar. And while the world knows them as the famous actor, or producer or director, have you wondered how many butterflies they had in their stomach as they waited for the winners to be announced? As the world waited to see their reaction to the announcement; and even more, to hear their acceptance speech.

Being nervous or a little anxious before a ‘big’ event is very natural to every human being; and one very common symptom is feeling ‘butterflies or palpitations in the stomach’ that don’t seem to go away, until of course the stressful event we have been anticipating is over or resolved. Famous people are not immune to this and there is nothing wrong with having these temporary feelings of tension or stress; but it is when these butterflies in the stomach never stop or go away; when this unsettling ‘ill’ feeling becomes the norm and disrupts one’s ability to live calmly, that one realises that he or she is living with anxiety. In many cases other symptoms will also materialise limiting the full enjoyment of living even further.

Of course the regular practice of ‘stillness’ provides relief from all these anxiety symptoms and restores calmness. One of the many advantages of SMT facilitated sessions is the use of calming touch, a unique, regulating feature of this particular type of meditation. Dr Meares explained this as “non verbal communication” between the client and the therapist. The support and understanding of the therapist is communicated without the need for words.

Some recent studies support and further expand this concept:

“The skin and the central nervous system arise from the same embryonic cell layers … after the differentiation of the brain and spinal cord, the rest of the embryo’s surface covering …give rise to the sense organs of hearing, smell, taste, vision and touch. We could consider the skin an exposed portion of the nervous system or an external nervous system. Touch can have strong effects on our bodies because, when the skin is touched, that stimulation is quickly transmitted to the brain, which in turn regulates our bodies. Depending upon the type of touch we receive, we can either be calmed down or aroused”  ( Ref: Touch, By Tiffany Field, MIT Press 2003)

Mothers have instinctively used touch to bond and calm their babies and now science can explain why this is. There are hundreds of studies supporting this theory and Dr Meares was certainly wise to the benefits of calming touch over 50 years ago.

So next time you’re feeling nervous or anxious with “butterflies in the stomach”, try placing your hands gently on your stomach, the same way as if you are comforting a baby, and take 5-10 minutes to practice Stillness. You may be surprised to find that you are feeling much calmer afterwards

Stillness Meditation Centres practitioners can help you overcome nerves and anxiety, if you want to know more please get in touch with us

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Commitment To Self-Care. How to Overcome the Obstacles of Life

Extract from “In Stillness Conquer Fear”

Caring for oneself is a life-long project — a kind of challenge to live well. Like a strong marriage, good health and a good life do not ‘just happen’ as many might hope; we must be prepared to work at achieving this state. So in the serious desire to overcome the obstacles of anxiety, panic and agoraphobia, it is necessary to be committed to this cause.

The film City of Joy, based on the book by Dominique Lapierre, uses the principle that in life we have three options:
•    to run
•    to spectate
•    to commit

Most people have known at some time the experience of running away from life’s challenges. In my years of agoraphobia, I did my share of running, only to receive in return for that effort ever-increasing fear and an all-pervading emptiness, to say nothing of a host of other accompanying negative emotions.

It is tempting too, for the fainthearted to ‘spectate’. Why not, after all, let others do it all for us while we try to remain safe and comfortable? But this way of life, too, is profitless and only emphasises the dependency people have come to accept: the doctor knows best, the tablets will cure me, everything will be all right when . . . Being a spectator in life also leads us down an empty path.

But commitment — to oneself and to the world we live in — is the threshold we long for, the threshold to the wellspring of the goodness of life. Commitment to any worthwhile cause will always bring positive results. It sparks our motivation and kindles hope when hope seems to be flagging. Commitment is the tool that gets things done. We must, therefore, make commitment a priority and, through it, take responsibility for ourselves.
With commitment we can then begin to eradicate excessive tension by practising stillness with purpose. As its serenity enters our lives, from it will be distilled the answers we are seeking and the solution to the problem of this kind of fear.

A life free of problems is a life without experience and, perhaps, without meaning. The experience of agoraphobia in my life helped me towards richer personal development and a more profound understanding of life and of human kind. We are all ‘amateur actors’, feeling our way, learning by our mistakes and our successes; even the steps which sometimes seem to be backward eventually take us forward in the continuing growth towards completeness. And so we collect life’s experiences as we might collect shells from the beach.

We should remember that, while sometimes those seashells are flung on to the sand in the midst of the storm, without fail, once the storm has passed, more shells will be gently laid there by the peaceful waters of a new day. As a child I found peace in Nessa’s garden. Somewhere, in everyone’s memory, is a garden of some kind where trouble is washed away by tranquillity. I use the example of the garden, not as an end in itself, but only to kindle within the reader’s spirit the tiniest memory of stillness and the wish to seek further. For it is well to recapture that memory and realise its value. It could be just the glimmer of light necessary to help you on your way. It is necessary too, to grasp the fact that suffering, whatever it may be, is not necessarily something to be avoided or of which to be ashamed, but an opportunity for life enhancement. Stillness meditation is, in my experience, the skill by which that suffering can be more easily accepted, transformed and overcome.

I recognise my good fortune in overcoming fear. Although eight years seemed a long time to me then, it is nothing at all compared to those who have known fear for twenty-eight or thirty-eight years. But this doesn’t mean that my understanding of the problem of fear is any the less, or that those who have suffered longer cannot change.

Here now, is a confession. During those years of fear I thought I would never forget one unpleasant moment. In the original telling of this story and in now reviewing it after twenty-five years, I have had to take my mind right back with some effort to recall the detail of eight years of that experience. A statement such as that, I think, holds sufficient conviction for the reader to know that anxiety, panic and agoraphobia definitely belong to my past.

 

It is my privilege to have shared all this with you. I trust that my story will continue to bring fear to greater awareness and help overcome the obstacles and provide that much-needed hope where required. To wish an easy road is to deny you adventure. I wish you, instead, a fulfilling journey upon which you will find a tranquil return to the truth and wholeness of yourself — and a future of contentment where all your dreams will be fulfilled.

I began this book by recalling a conversation with a stranger on a train. His thoughts seem a fitting expression to close with: ‘People are scared, you know’! But it is generally because they are tense. People are tense, you know. But we don’t have to be — there is a rewarding alternative!

Stillness Meditation Centres practitioners can help you overcome the obstacles of Life, if you want to know more please get in touch with us

Stillness Meditation for Students Melbourne
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Stillness Meditation for Students

By Kaye Hakopian

As we move further into the school year many students experience stress ~ the difference between problems faced and the ability to cope.

For adolescents it is not only the challenge of keeping up with work deadlines and looming exams, but also worries about being ‘ left out ‘ academically and socially. More and more there is an element of competition in all areas of life.

Anxiety fuels uncertainty in developing an inner identity and in the perception of what others think.  A fear of ” ruining or spoiling things ” for family and friends is common at this stage of life.

Stress, anxiety and the tightrope of nervous tension can become the norm, establishing unhealthy and unnecessary patterns of coping.  Coping well is about restoring harmony to brain function so that all the information received can be integrated.

Adolescent life is better without the feeling of being constantly ‘ on guard, ‘ readily provoked to be defensive or aggressive, over reactive to the superficial.

The suggestion is not to do less nor avoid stressful situations, but to learn to experience an ease of mind, a degree of inner calm so that problems and uncertainties no longer have the same disturbing effect.

The regular practice of Stillness (SMT) offers moments of profound quietness in which the brain is able to sort out the stream of impulses. Such moments come naturally as in daydreaming and the effect flows on into daily life.

Often when I suggest Stillness Meditation for Students, the response is …..  But, ” HOW CAN I SIT AND DO NOTHING WHEN I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO ?? ”
This is a reasonable response when a student feels overloaded, struggling to meet so many expectations and demands.   Trust and gentle encouragement are needed ~ just let it come, slowly and little by little a calmness comes to your mind.

You will be able to:

  • think more clearly
  • do more with less effort
  • and respond more freely

Inner ease and naturalness lead to an understanding of things at a deeper level, beyond the active mind ~ a source of inner strength and confidence. For the adolescent this is very empowering.  When nervous tension is not consuming so much energy, it is also easier to concentrate and fulfil creative potential.

While so much of learning appears complex, the practice of Stillness Meditation for Students is essentially simple:

  • LET MUSCLES RELAX
  • EXPERIENCE THE RELAXATION OF BODY IN YOUR MIND
  • TRANSCEND MINOR DISCOMFORT
  • EXPERIENCE THE EASE OF MIND IN YOUR DAILY LIVING
  • ALLOW YOURSELF THE MEDITATIVE EXPERIENCE DAILY

I encourage young people (and their parents) to make this natural practice part of their lives. Yes, it does require time and commitment but the benefits are worth making that initial step, for Quiet Time soon becomes something to look forward to, a special space to ‘just be.’

As a practitioner at the Centre I have been privileged to see so many students discover for themselves the difference SMT makes. Having settled into the school routine, before the intensity of end of year, NOW is a perfect time to explore, establish and begin to benefit from Stillness. You will be most welcome at the SMT Centre.

© May 2015

There are many benefits of Stillness Meditation for Students, if you want to know more please get in touch with us

Children and SMT School
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Working with Children and SMT

By Francine Cockerill

The following quote comes from Let’s Be Still the Teaching Manual that accompanies the book Quiet Magic by Pauline McKinnon.

‘To link ‘magic’ with the word ‘quiet’ may seem to be a paradox.  And yet, perhaps the simplest way to discover the real magic of life is by not trying in any way to find it at all, but by being open to positive possibilities, allowing them to transpire.  And that is the essence of this teaching program.’

It is also the essence of the Stillness Meditation Therapy (SMT®) experience and the therapeutic process when I work with children and parents in private sessions.  Whatever the ‘presenting issues’ happen to be, positive change occurs on many unexpected levels.  How is it that by simply sitting still and feeling safe enough to close our eyes for a period of time can bring a whole consciousness shift?  It may be either subtle or profound – but ‘magic’ as an experiential process happens!

Within my sessions and supported by an atmosphere of calm, relaxed ease, insights come through varied art activities and creative play.  Parents feel less vigilant and oppressed by the stresses of parenting and problem solving.  They can view their child in a new context and if they join the stillness experience, they have at firsthand an unspoken understanding that can only deepen the bond between themselves and their child.

Over several sessions, a foundation is laid for positive change.  As one parent expressed, her child now has stillness in his tool-box, close at hand when in need.  Many clients revisit stillness sessions at various life stages to reconnect with this valuable life-skill.

In the school context, the magic of stillness becomes a precious refuge.  This is most successful with the co-operative support of teachers, staff and therapist working together – while respecting the philosophy and values of the school and the teaching styles of the year levels.

In that environment, over time, a bond of trust is assured which gives children permission to feel comfortable in the ‘space’ created by the therapist.  In that space is fostered what can be translated as quiet time, relax time and mind rest.  In that way, stillness then becomes an integral part of the school curriculum.

When the teachers themselves actively participate and look forward to Children and SMT stillness time then they become role models for their children.  This shared experience flows on into the classroom and other aspects of school life.

Stillness MeditationTherapy has a special part to play in all aspects of daily life … if only we all ‘just let it occur …’

© June 2015

Please get in touch if you want more information about Children and SMT

Can Meditation Treat Anxiety Melbourne

Can Meditation Treat Anxiety?

Im often asked can meditation treat anxiety. The answer to this question is undoubtedly yes!

This is such a topical question – here we are in Melbourne in lockdown again due to another wave of COVID that has caught us quite unexpectedly.  And of course, people become anxious – or more anxious because currently, we have no control over this insidious virus.

Stillness – the therapeutic meditation

I can say ‘yes’ with confidence due to the style of meditation I learned and have taught and practiced for nearly 40 years.  My story is told in my book In Stillness Conquer Fear, first published in 1983. It is to the courage and wisdom of the late Dr Ainslie Meares and his concept of meditation and Relief Without Drugs that I attribute this success.  In sharing my story, I have been able to offer many others his style of meditation, helping people transform anxiety into productivity and a happy, fulfilling life.  I know the frustration and sorrow that anxiety causes.  I know how people can go from expert to expert, seeking relief.  I know that a majority of anxiety sufferers do not want reliance on medication as the solution to their symptoms.

Stillness – simple, natural, life-changing – different!

Meares’ vision for mental health (Stillness Meditation Therapy) is centred upon learning and practising periods of complete rest – body, mind and spirit.  And here’s the difference: in the experience of stillness there is no technique as in other styles of meditation.

Stillness meditation is simple and natural – the body’s own way of easing distress.  There is no mantra, no music, no focused attention, mindfulness or breathing to occupy the mind.  Just complete rest.  Challenging at first?  Yes, but with perseverance and regular practice, a profound calm is experienced.  And then things begin to change.  Anxiety reduces and symptoms gradually decrease.  Calm control replaces agitation. Confidence, self-knowledge and intuitive awareness gently bring further relief.

If you still have questions on how can meditation treat anxiety or if you long for positive change, please make contact.  You don’t have to live a life of anxiety.

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                                                            Pauline McKinnon, June 2021